{"id":14440,"date":"2020-11-24T12:00:57","date_gmt":"2020-11-24T17:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.gcc.edu\/insider\/?p=14440"},"modified":"2020-11-06T12:13:08","modified_gmt":"2020-11-06T17:13:08","slug":"dealing-roommate-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.gcc.edu\/insider\/2020\/11\/24\/dealing-roommate-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with Roommate Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Not knowing who your roommate will be as you begin college can be a little nerve-wracking. You could be living with someone you do not know anything about, or who is from a completely different state or country, or who has completely different expectations for sleep cycles or cleanliness. It can be tough. This week I interviewed a couple of people and asked them about what their experience has been with their roommate, and asked for tips on how to deal with roommate conflict.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">I started by asking how they went about dealing with roommate conflict. H replied,\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">\u201cWell, my roommate S normally does it for everybody else. But, one thing I noticed she does a lot is when she has a hard conversation with one of our roommates, and she says something that could be taken the wrong way, she always goes back and does something nice for them. For example, sometimes when I\u2019ve had a tough conversation with my roommates and I felt like it went badly I will leave them a nice note and try to encourage them or make things right.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>M had a similar thought, saying,<span style=\"font-weight: 400\">\u00a0\u201cYeah, I think it is best to try to restore the relationship, but still be sure to deal with things. I really don\u2019t enjoy confrontation, and I think sometimes people try to not deal with things or push it under a table, but it just does not go well.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">J thought it was good to bring up the conflict early on, saying, \u201cYou bring up the problem early before it becomes a big problem and try to talk it out respectfully.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;So,&#8221; I asked, &#8220;<span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Is there ever a good time to ignore problems with a roommate?&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">H replied, \u201cDon\u2019t ignore your problems with other people, actually address them. I think people do that a lot\u00a0\u2013 it\u2019s not a very big social norm (to address problems), especially coming out of high school. People don\u2019t deal with problems they have with others in high school. They don&#8217;t talk to people they are having problems with. Before I came, I had maybe had those types of conversations about three times. But when I first arrived I needed to have those conversations like three times within the first week of school.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">J wanted to add more clarification \u2013 \u201cIf it\u2019s something you are sure you can deal with and it\u2019s just irking you, but not really ruining you\u2026 If you know you can live with it, and it\u2019s just inconvenient then you could probably ignore it.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Continuing the thought, I asked the group, &#8220;Why do you think that is important to address problems with roommates?&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">\u201cSo you\u2019re not building up any sort of weird emotion with your roommate. You don\u2019t want things to get stuck under a table and have it be tense in the room,&#8221; H said, with a look of remembrance on her face.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">J added, \u201cI think it\u2019s a good thing to do early because it kind of builds up some respect between you and your roommates and it keeps it open for more conversation.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Roommate conflict can be a tough issue when you share a small dorm space with people, but hopefully this tips help give you a hint on how to deal with roommate issue in the future. I have had some amazing roommates throughout the years, and all of them have become life-long friends. 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